Sunday, 31 July 2016
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Friday, 29 July 2016
WATCH/DOWNLOAD VIDEO: 13 Tips To Make A Good Relationship Great
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Do a Google search on how to get your best body and you’ll be inundated with pages of training tips. For those who want to take that same, proactive approach to creating your best relationship, I have your "exercise regimen" below.
1. Do the things you did the first year you were dating.
As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again.
2. Ask for what you want.
Over time, we assume that our partner knows us so well that we don’t need to ask for what we want. What happens when we make this assumption? Expectations are set and just as quickly, they get deflated. Those unmet expectations can leave us questioning the viability of our partnership and connection. Keep in mind that “asking for what you want” extends to everything from emotional to sexual wants.
3. Become an expert on your partner.
Think about who your mate really is and what excites him or her (both physically and emotionally). We can become consumed by what WE THINK he/she wants, as opposed to tuning in to what truly resonates with the other person. Remember that if it’s important to your partner, it doesn’t have to make sense to you. You just have to do it.
4. Don't ask "how was your day."
At the end of a long day, we tend to mentally check out of our lives and consequently, our relationship. We rely on the standard question, “How was your day?” Generally, that boring question will yield a boring answer such as, “Fine, how was yours?” This does nothing to improve your connection and instead, can actually damage it because you're losing the opportunity to regularly connect in a small way.
Instead, try asking things like, “What made you smile today?” or “What was the most challenging part of your day?” You’ll be amazed at the answers you’ll get, with the added benefit of gaining greater insight into your significant other.
5. Create a weekly ritual to check in with one another.
It can be short or long but it begins with asking each other what worked and didn’t work about the previous week and what can be done to improve things this coming week. Additionally, use this opportunity to get on the same page with your schedules, plan a date night and talk about what you would like to see happen in the coming days, weeks, and months in your relationship. Without an intentional appointment to do a temperature check, unmet needs and resentments can build.
6. Keep it sexy.
What might change in your relationship if both you and your partner committed to increasing the behaviors you each find sexy and limiting those that aren’t? Think about this in the broadest form. “Sexy” can certainly refer to bedroom preferences, but it also represents what excites us about our mate in our day-to-day lives. Do you find it sexy if he/she helps with the housework? Do you find it "unsexy" when he/she uses the restroom with the door wide open? Talk about what it specifically means to "keep it sexy" in your relationship. Be amazed, be humored, be inspired!
7. Get creative about the time you spend together.
Break out of the “dinner and a movie” routine and watch how a little novelty can truly rejuvenate your relationship. On a budget and can’t go big? Jump on the internet to look for “cheap date ideas” and be blown away at the plethora of options. Can’t afford a sitter? Try swapping babysitting time with friends that have kids. It’s free and they will likely be thrilled to take your kids because they will get to take advantage when they drop their kids at your place.
8. Get it on.
Unless you have committed to an asexual partnership, sex, sexual contact and touching (kissing, holding hands, cuddling etc.) are vital components of a romantic relationship. The frequency is of course, up to you and it's imperative that you discuss your ideas about it in order to prevent resentment. Rare are the moments when both partners are “in the mood” at the exact same second, but that doesn’t mean that you have to decline their advances. Remind yourself that you will almost always “get there” after the first few minutes and that an intimate interaction of any kind builds connection and elevates your mood and health. Bear in mind that you are never required to say “yes.” If you truly don’t feel it, the best thing you can do is to postpone. Just make sure that you initiate or accept within a reasonable amount of time thereafter.
9. Take a (mental) vacation, everyday.
Life and work distractions can become paramount in our minds and that leaves little time or energy for our partner. Practice the art of “Wearing the Relationship Hat.” This means that (barring any emergencies or deadlines), we are fully present when we're with our mate. We truly hear what they are saying (instead of pretending to listen), we leave our distractions behind and we don’t pick them up again until the sun comes up and we walk out the door.
Some tips to improve communication
Sadly, we aren’t born with the innate ability to effectively communicate but it doesn’t mean that we can’t learn. Use the following techniques to better navigate and limit the tension in your relationship:
10. Take "fight breaks" when you need them.
Before you’ve hit the point of no return and as you see the stress beginning to escalate, one or both of you can call a break so that cooler heads can prevail. The crux of this tool lies in the fact that you must pick a specific time to revisit the conversation (I.e. 10 minutes from now, 2:00pm on Tuesday etc.) so that closure can be achieved.
11. Dig deep to unearth your true feelings.
In most disagreements, we communicate from the “Top Layer,” which are the obvious emotions such as anger, annoyance and the like. Leading from this place can create confusion, defensiveness and ultimately distract from the real issue. Start communicating from the “Bottom Layer” (i.e. What feelings are really driving your reactions such as disappointment, rejection, loneliness, disrespect etc.).
This type of expression creates an instant sense of empathy because it requires honesty and vulnerability to share from this space. Tension will dissipate and from here, solutions can spring. Just be sure to use kind, non-reactive phrasing when expressing these bottom layer feelings, such as “I felt hurt by…” as a replacement for “You’re such a jerk” etc.
12. Seek to understand ... not agree.
Easy in concept, difficult in application. Conversations quickly turn to arguments when we're invested in hearing our partner admit that we were right or when we are intent on changing his/her opinion. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand your significant other’s perspective as opposed to waiting for them to concede. From this perspective, we have an interesting dialogue and prevent a blow out or lingering frustration.
13. Make your apology count.
It’s well understood that apologizing is a good thing but it only makes a real impact when you mean it. Saying things like “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry you see it that way” are a waste of time and breath. Even if you don’t agree that your action was wrong, you will never successfully argue a feeling.
Accept that your mate feels hurt and from this place, a real apology can have a significant impact. When you love your partner and hurt them (intentionally or not) you can always legitimately apologize for the pain you caused regardless of your perspective on what you did or didn’t do.
You are now, officially armed with the comprehensive exercise routine to fully reshape your relationship. Trim the fat and build your hottest relationship for life!
Wednesday, 27 July 2016
DOWNLOAD or WATCH VIDEO: Prophet Caught And Stripped Unclad For Sleeping With A Married Woman In Asaba, Delta State
A popular prophet identified as Prophet Obi O. of Anchor of Restoration Church
located at Owufuju Street, Asaba was this morning stripped to his underwear by the people who caught him red handed allegedly having s*x with a married woman. He was made to hold his church banner while being paraded around in his underpants. No service on Sunday for his church.CL!CK TO DOWNLOAD OR WATCH VIDEO
Monday, 25 July 2016
Terrorism in the sky: Four decades of plane hijackings and bombings: WATCH VIDEO
In the Dawson's Field hijackings (September 6, 1970) four jet aircraft bound for New York City were hijacked by
members of the Popular Front for the Liberation of Palestine. While the majority of the 310 hostages were transferred to Amman and freed on September 11, the PFLP segregated the flight crews and Jewish passengers, keeping 56 hostages in custody. On September 12, prior to their announced deadline, the PFLP used explosives to destroy the empty planes, as they anticipated a counterstrike.CL!CK TO WATCH OR DOWNLOAD VIDEO
VIDEO: How A Dog Saved A Family From Cobra Attack In Bayelsa State, Nigeria
A dog has saved a family from being attacked by a venomous reptile in Bayelsa State in a very interesting way.
The dog
saved a family from death on Sunday in Bayelsa after it stopped a cobra from attacking their home.The event occurred in Otuasega Community, Ogbia Local Government Area of Bayelsa.
A family member, Catherine Isiki, who spoke in an interview with the News Agency of Nigeria on Tuesday in Yenagoa, described the attack as a “mystery to the family”.
Isiki said that the cobra “invaded” their home at about 1am on Sunday.
She said:-
“I woke up as a result of alarm raised by my grand-daughter who was the first person to see the snake.
“I am alive today because of a dog that saved me and my family; neighbours could not kill the cobra due to its size.
“Some of our neighbours could not even come near our compound due to fear; the Mastiff (dog) was awakened by the noise.
“It was the dog that went straight to the room where the snake was and began to fight the cobra until it killed it.
“I do not know how the snake managed to gain entry to our house because everywhere is tiled.
“In fact, it would have been a tragic story if we did not have the dog as a pet in the house; yes, the dog finally killed the snake, but it was God’s intervention.”
Isiki appreciated God for sparing her family and encouraged people to keep dogs as pets.
“Dogs can save you from any untold danger, just as my entire family was saved because I have a pet dog in my house,” Isiki said.
Sunday, 24 July 2016
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Thursday, 21 July 2016
D0WNLO@D V1DEO: UNIVERSITY OF CALABAR GIRL HAVING FUN IN THE BATHROOM
No doubt she is Nigeria's number one smut queen. Below is
a video of her using a s£x toy to satisfy herself in the basement. She seems to be enjoying herself because you can see her opening her mouth like she was reaching a s£xual climax. Then just when you thought you have seen it all, a particular white guy joined her in the bathroom and they began doing the real thing. Pls be warned, don't open this video if you are in the office or if you are in the presence of your parents..MADNESS: This lady destroyed her boyfriend with hot palm oil over another woman. W@tch/D0wnload V1de0:
The rate some ladies carry on these days with their suspecting and jealousy acts is very worrisome. Why can't
ladies just be sincere and prayerful in their relationship, rather than this blind rage?When I saw these pics shared by someone who knows the lovers, I felt really sad. The lady did this to her boyfriend over an allegation that he impregnated someone. She was not even sure if it's true.
A source who shared the pics wrote: "Beware of whom you choose to be with. This is what a jealous girlfriend did to her boyfriend. Simply because she heard a rumour that he impregnated someone. Without finding out from the guy, she came to visit him on that evil day to pretend to pass the night. At midnight when he was asleep.
She woke up, bleached red oil and poured it on the guy's face and body. Then she ran away. She is nowhere to found. What a wicked heart. This is not tell me I tel you.
I know them and I have seen them together having fun, playing, smiling and even eating together."
This guy must have been dating the 'devil' herself. How sad!
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W@tch V1de0: WONDERFUL! Good Woman Gives Birth to Triplets after 29 Years of Marriage
For 29 years she never stopped believing that it would happen, in the fullness of time, and it has...
A source, Samson Olajire shared the good news: "After 29th years of waiting and trusting God for the fruit of the womb, our God answer Brother and Sister ALALE TIMI ROSE of RCCG FCT Province 8, Abuja with TRIPLET.
No time is too late for our God to perform wonders.
Sunday, 17 July 2016
Terrible! This 300-level Business Admin Student of ANSU Allegedly Committed Suicide Last Night over Girlfriend
Prosper, a student of Anambra State University, died yesterday after
reportedly drinking ‘Sniper’ shortly after sending his girlfriend a text message saying that by this morning he should have been dead. His lodge mate was quoted as saying:“Around 12:23am, we started hearing noise from him snoring heavily.
At first we thought it was normal until it got unbearable. So we had to enter his room and found him lying on the floor. Then we started praying, after which we made arrangements for him to be taken to the hospital. Before then, we had already forced palm oil down his throat.
So on getting to the nurse, she confirmed him dead. No be today dem begin dey get wahala. He usually complain that the girlfriend is giving her tough time. In fact, he used to cook and take to the girl’s lodge. He frequents it. He had earlier called the girlfriend’s best friend and asked her to take good care of his girlfriend for him. The death is a painful one.”
Sunday, 10 July 2016
A MUST W@tch! The 7 S*x Moves Men Love Most
Men joke that any s*x is good s*x—and they're not entirely kidding. They're biologically designed to
be gratified in bed more quickly and easily than women. But when pressed, almost every man will admit that sometimes s*x is better than good. Certain s*x moves drive them crazy in the best possible way. Women who know these moves hold the kind of power over men that inspires great art, novels and films. And you don't have to be lithe or athletic to perfect them. In fact, they're ridiculously easy to learn.W@tch/D0wnl0ad Vide0:
W@tch Vide0: Flavour Donate Food Items To Widows In Enugu
Flavour in a touching act of benevolence, has taken time out to share with the widows of Enugu State.
The singer who
is currently shooting in the Coal City shared photos from his time spent with the widows, yesterday, July 7, 2016, emphasising that charity should begin at home.Flavour was pictured speaking with the widows who received bags of rice, carton of tin tomatoes amongst other food items.
Sharing the photos, Flavour wrote:
“Charity begins at home. I had the honour and pleasure of visiting and spending some quality time with a strong force of women, here today in Enugu. These women, who are widowed, stand united in their zest for life and support for one another. I was truly touched by their stories and will never forget this visit.”
The singer N’Abania crooner is known for his charity work which is far more than most celebrities can boast of.A MUST W@TCH VIDE0: I’ll Continue Wearing Skirt – Jaden Smith
Though Will Smith has admittedly once found his son, Jaden Smith‘s cross dressing discomforting, the 18-year-old continues to be unapologetic about his style of dressing.
Putting himself
forward as an advocate for cross dressers, Jaden says he hopes to change the way cross dressers like him are viewed and addressed by the public in the next few years.‘The world is going to keep bashing me for whatever I do, and I’m going to keep not caring,’ Jaden told Nylon magazine in the cover story for its latest August 2016 issue.
‘I’m going to keep doing the same things — I’m going to keep doing more things. I’m going to take most of the blows for my fellow MSFTS. So, you know, in five years when a kid goes to school wearing a skirt, he won’t get beat up and kids won’t get mad at him.’
‘It just doesn’t matter. I’m taking the brunt of it so that later on, my kids and the next generations of kids will all think that certain things are normal that weren’t expected before my time,’ he optimistically expressed.
Jaden became the first male face of French fashion house Louis Vuitton’s womenswear collection when he appeared for the brand’s spring 2016 ad campaign.
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Rita Dominic Lied About Her Age – Ex-Classmate Claims: W@tch/D0wnl0ad Vide0
You would recall that veteran Nollywood actress and producer, Rita Dominic
New reports now suggest that she might have lied about her age.
Rita celebrated 40th birthday on July 12, 2015.
A source close to the actress named Chika, revealed that Rita Dominic is lying and they both went to the same school together.
In Chika’s words, “But Rita you are 43 not 40. We all grew up at Aba and we were in d same class in Santa Maria Primary school, Aba. This should have been celebrated 3yrs ago not this year my dear Rita”
43 and 40, what’s the real difference?!?
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W@tch Vide0:I Never Had s*x With D’Banj And I Never Will – Tonto Dikeh
Popular Nollywood star and singer, Tonto Dikeh was on Olisa Adibua’s ‘The Truth‘ show a while back.
In the 21 minute long interview, Tonto Dikeh spoke about
her music ambitions, acting, the controversy with the luxury shopper and her relationship status.‘Poko Lee’ confirmed she is in a relationship but she is not dating Jerry Swank, her stylist.
When the discussion moved to D’banj, Tonto Dikeh categorically said she has never had s*x with her DB Records boss.
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MUST W@tch! My Kids Must Know Their Lives Matter – Kim Kardashian
Reality TV star, Kim Kardashian is the latest to share her take on the alleged recent killings
of blacks in the hands of police in the United States.After being attacked by her followers for her silence on the issue, the 35-year-old mother of two who is married to rapper Kanye West took to her website to say she also fears for the lives of her biracial kids.
‘This week we watched Alton Sterling and Philando Castile, two innocent black men, get senselessly murdered by police officers. Like a lot of you guys, I watched the videos, and was appalled and completely heartbroken. I was left speechless, angry and numb,’ she wrote.
‘I want my children to grow up knowing that their lives matter. I do not ever want to have to teach my son to be scared of the police, or tell him that he has to watch his back because the people we are told to trust—the people who ‘protect and serve’—may not be protecting and serving him because of the color of his skin.’
Kim however calls for a peaceful resolution rather than taking rash decisions, urging everyone to reach out to local legislators to find justice for all the victims of alleged police brutality.
‘The last thing we need is to fuel anger with more hate or violence, especially toward the many incredible police officers who risk their lives every single day to protect our families and communities,’ her post on the website further reads. ‘We must peacefully use the power of our voices and the strength of our numbers to demand changes in the judicial system so that brutality doesn’t ever go unpunished.’
‘It is our responsibility as Americans and as parents to create a safe future for our children. We must do something NOW. We must speak up until we are heard and real, effective changes are made. Alton Sterling, Philando Castile, Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Eric Garner, Freddie Gray, Tamir Rice, Sandra Bland, Sean Bell…and unfortunately so many more. Hashtags are not enough. This must end now… #BLACKLIVESMATTER,’ she concluded.
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